Comparison Syndrome

Ever found yourself, while scrolling through social media platforms commenting using the hashtag “goals” after one of your friends or a celebrity has updated a post that is really appealing? Well, I can say that being a blogger calls for God’s grace, focus, and contentment. It is quite easy to fall into the trap of comparison, especially when another blogger posts something that is really appealing to the readers and maybe I had tried highlighting a certain trend which did not so work well on my part while on their part it worked wonders.

Because of this, it is easy to find oneself subconsciously wanting to write even better and outshine and this, to be honest, happens to the best of us.

I believe that everyone can attest to the fact that in one way or the other through social media platforms, or even in real life, we have compared ourselves to our friends/relatives/colleagues on matters to do with marriage/relationship/career /looks/ and at times feel good or inner pride having considered ourselves on a higher standard than the ones we are comparing ourselves to.

This comparison syndrome has reached a point where we view it as normal and in the Bible it is not, since it births envy, pride, and low self- esteem. The book of Jeremiah Clearly states that the human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is?
We can draw a few principles from the bible to get back on track when the comparison syndrome tends to take control of our lives.

1.Know the source that Propels You.
When you look at your friend’s life and it makes you work harder and achieve the best, then that force that is propelling you is not from God, it is good to challenge yourself, and also look up to someone but when the propeller becomes a human being then you are on the wrong path.

Once you allow the external forces to defile you it means the destruction of the inner man. Remember Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” God has a plan for each and every one of us, He understands us more than anyone or anything because He created us, He knows our weakness and strengths, and He knows the beginning from the end. Isaiah 46:10 I make known the end from the beginning, from ancient times, what is still to come, I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and I will do all that I please.’


A potter uses clay to create works of art. There are a wide variety of clays to choose from, each with their own unique properties. The clay a potter chooses depends on what they want the finished product to look and feel like. And also, perform certain functionality. God is our potter, He made us with different specifications so that we come together to fulfill His purpose here on earth.

We should go back to the porter (God) the one who created us to be able to find the strength that will propel us to achieve that which He called us for. We should reach a point where we are driven by divine purpose instead of being driven by money or fame.
You become successful on earth and in heaven when what you do is approved by heaven. God grants you success and ultimately rest when what you are doing is motivated by Him than any other thing. (Being motivated to build His Kingdom)

Point to note: God’s purpose should be our every day propeller since He is the one that  empowers us with His divine power/grace

2. Know Your Worth
Often this phrase has been used to bring out an attitude of “I am better than” which is not a kingdom value. Today we will rephrase it: Know Your Identity
‘You’re not defined by your feelings. You’re not defined by the opinions of others or by your circumstances. You’re not defined by your successes or failures. You’re not defined by the car you drive, the money you make, or the house you stay /you own when the bank really does.’ – Rick Warren

If you don’t know who you are, you are vulnerable to what people define you. Remember the book of Mathew 4:1-11? The devil usually comes to us in a very crafty way; he doesn’t shout out Loud that he is the devil! When you know your place, it is easy to discern his craftiness, but when you doubt who you are, and don’t form a solid relationship with God, you will be easily swayed by Satan’s craftiness. We should, therefore, purpose to mature in Christ, asking God to pour His spirit upon us and by seeking Him and yearning to know Him more.

In Psalms 139:13 for you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.
From here we understand that God already defined us while we were not yet born, so we shouldn’t listen to any voice except God’s voice because His opinion is the only one that matters.

These are some of the statements you can declare in your daily life as you pray to God to give you more revelation and Help you to know your Identity in Christ:
• I am a child of God. John 1:12
• I am redeemed and Forgiven Colossians 1:14
• I have been given exceedingly great and precious promises by God by which I share His nature. 2 Peter 1:4
• I am chosen of God, Holy and dearly loved. Colossians 3:12
• I do not have a Spirit of fear, but of love, power, and a sound mind. 2 Timothy 1:7
• God works in me to Help me do the things He wants me to do Philippians 2:13
• I can ask God for Wisdom and He will give me what I need. James 1:5
• For in Him dwells all the fullness of the Godhead bodily; 10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power. Colossians 2:9

Point to note:   Let us focus on hearing what God says about us.
Would love to hear some of the questions/challenges/lessons you have in regards to this topic since it is very wide. You can comment on the section below or Email me on (I love reading My Emails and would surely reply)

Let us purpose to Stay Focused!


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    April 21, 2016 at 6:29 am

    awesome piece there gal.

    • Lornah
      April 21, 2016 at 6:41 am

      All Glory belongs to God :-)Thank you for always supporting me girl. Love you 🙂

  • Kate
    April 21, 2016 at 7:19 am

    Awesome piece! very timely i must add…so many people are struggling with their identity..keep up the good work Lornah! God bless

    • Lornah
      April 22, 2016 at 11:19 am

      Thank you Kate, means a lot 🙂

  • Scrapbook Journeys
    April 21, 2016 at 3:30 pm

    Wow the content is deep and very relevant, and read at just the right time for me! Well done! 🙂 Keep On!

    • Lornah
      April 22, 2016 at 11:18 am

      I am glad that it challenged you, hopefully, you will be able to apply the principles 🙂

  • Ina Guya
    April 21, 2016 at 8:47 pm

    True stuff there,

    • Lornah
      April 22, 2016 at 11:17 am

      I was challenged too 🙂 Thanks for stopping by…

  • rodgers
    April 24, 2016 at 9:02 am

    awsome read!! thumnbs up…

    • Lornah
      April 25, 2016 at 12:56 pm

      Thank you so much Rodgers 🙂

  • Meron Dymphana
    April 27, 2016 at 4:34 am

    We’ve all had the comparison syndrome and the best way to overcome it is by using the word of God and those tips you have given are top notch! I had it to because most are my friends went to law school after campus and I decided to pursue fashion but slowly by slowly am beginning to appreciate my current situation. Thanks for sharing.

    • Lornah
      May 3, 2016 at 2:23 pm

      wow! that is something I am so glad that it this piece helped you to understand your identity and also appreciate who you are. Thank you for opening up 🙂

  • lynn
    May 1, 2016 at 7:08 am

    this is a good read.very deep.keep up the good work

    • Lornah
      May 3, 2016 at 2:21 pm

      Thank you Lynn, that is so encouraging 🙂

  • Rshan Phonsi
    May 5, 2016 at 5:13 pm

    Amen, “Know your woth, know you are” Best read in a long time. Love it!

    • Lornah
      May 16, 2016 at 7:47 am

      I am glad you carried something 🙂 Thank you Rshan for stopping by

  • Rosey
    July 10, 2016 at 5:17 pm

    This is simply precious! We all face this and need to overcome it in order to bring out the beauty and uniqueness of what God ordained for us to bring forth and in fullness unto His glory ☺☺

    • Lornah
      July 15, 2016 at 2:25 pm

      AMEN! You have said it all dear! thank you for stopping by

  • Grace
    August 5, 2016 at 5:06 am

    This is so profound gal,its natural and easy to compare ourselves but i think as christians we should know our portion and ask God help us not to fall inot that temptation.

    • Lornah
      August 9, 2016 at 9:25 am

      True… If we only knew what we have, we wouldn’t be comparing ourselves to anyone. thank you for stopping by

  • Matilda Atikinyi Ogoye Kubende
    October 24, 2016 at 2:12 pm

    Lovely piece! It surely got life and it has touched me.
    Such a piece will always be relevant.

    • Lornah
      October 27, 2016 at 8:26 am

      aaaw I am glad that it touched you, thank you for stopping by, I really appreciate 😉

  • Nabulu
    December 6, 2016 at 1:02 pm

    Wow ,I am glad you talked about this, its truly blessed my heart. I struggled with this until I found my identity in Christ. Continue this wonderful work Lornah you are always in my prayers.


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Lornah Abaki

Lornah Abaki

Hi there! I'm Lornah Abaki. A wife, daughter, asister and a friend who is passionate about all matters Faith, Fashion and Lifestyle. This precious platform is where I share Life experiences and Discoveries the Bible being the core foundation. I hope this platform inspires you to learn more about God, Modest Fashion, and inner beauty as we grow deeper in our relationship with God. Take a journey with us to discover more .. Read more




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